What are myths? And how do they affect our lives?
Myths have a role to play in explaining why we choose what we choose and how we live our lives. Our lives can be called living myths. Which myth we draw from to live our lives is a unique expression of our genes, our family, and the environment where we are conceived. When we examine life as a creation of consciousness, rather than a linear cause and effect, we get so much more out of what we see around us. Non-dualistic healing work is an adventure in healing the soul.
Krishna, the god of love is a Hindu metaphysical story about a very charming god, who women found very attractive because he was so full of love. He had many admirers. But the one he loved the most was Radha, his childhood friend and companion. It is unclear whether Radha and he were a couple ever. It is clear though that Radha deeply loved him, and she was his true intellectual companion.
The issue that struck me about the story was that Krishna, despite his godliness, his bevy of admiring women, was too insecure to engage in monogamous human love! i.e., give and receive love. Perhaps it made him feel very vulnerable.
When we see a man who must have attention from women–and we see plenty around. There’s more to it than meets the eye.
1. Multiple women around a man signifies his manliness and worth to him. It is about his nature as a man.
2. He feels better about himself when he can get a woman’s attention. This is the kind of man who expresses his interest in women through his posture, his clothes etc. He wants every woman to find him attractive.
3. For him sex is love. If married, this person gets easily insecure if the object of his affection, denies him sex. So, he feels lesser, unworthy and generally awful if the wife is cold towards him or appears to reject him. At first he tries harder and harder to please her, but eventually he can withdraw and give up.
4. He will generally be attracted to those women whom he can never have or who don’t respond to him. When the woman gives in to him, he may actually lose interest, thus, he will spend a long time going after the one woman who rejected him or thinking about her.
Getting married or being in a relationship does not always mean that the psychological need for attention is resolved. The married man sometimes flirts because he wants more attention. Maybe the kids get all the attention and he feels second. Maybe they don’t get enough sex. Maybe the woman stopped taking care of herself. Maybe she doesn’t feel like making an effort all the time for him. Whatever the cause, extra marital flirtations aren’t a huge serious issue, unless there is serious betrayal of trust. Often the only reason things get that far is because of a total lack of self-reflection and awareness.
Sex is about being naked. It is about being emotionally vulnerable enough to show the body. It is about emotional connection, it isn’t just a physiological act that means nothing, other than a satisfaction of an instinct. Beneath all the hang-ups around giving and receiving love that people learn in childhood and past lives, human beings really just want love. That makes them happy. The selfish, narcissistic person who is only looking for fulfillment of his drives is a story perpetuated in very controlling cultures, where human emotions are not valued. Freudian theory has greatly influenced western ideas in the past, but it is quite limiting in terms of human development and growth. This is the age of myth, of story, of Carl Jung and Eastern metaphysical ideas of non-dualism.
So, what do we do about the person suffering from the Krishna complex? The guy who wants all the girls, but doesn’t have the emotional depth nor development necessary to understand how to love? The person who is afraid of true love?
Talking can’t help, because unless the self is examined and the emotional context realized, the same state repeats itself. The woman has to first realize that it isn’t about her. She could be the most beautiful woman in the world. So it isn’t about her lack of attractiveness or the man’s evil nature, because the man is often acting unconsciously. The behaviour is arriving from the sub-conscious, which is truly not under the control of a person, ever. If that happens we call it enlightenment. At best, we can individuate, i.e., keep integrating with pieces of ourselves that have been lost.
Hypnotherapy and deep hypnotic healing workshops work at the level of myth i.e., the level of the story creating sub-conscious, thus it can enlighten, give insight and change the inner state.
Whatever we see happening in a person’s life is coming from a myth playing a story line in their deep unconscious.
We are mythic stories….do you want to know how to rewrite your story?
Which myths rule your life?
Do you want to become more aware of who you truly are?
Do you want to take charge of your experience?
Do you want to heal your life?
Is it time to live your happiest and most fulfilling version of you?
Would you like to change your story?
Our mind is very powerful.
The same mind that created the suffering, the hurdles and the agony can also help you navigate past them.
(c) Saima Shah.
Clinical Hypnotherapist who can help you re-write your story.